Open relationship takes time and negotiation

My wife and I are both typical heterosexual. We are the so-called swinger couple. Sometimes, we would even arrange a double date with another couples for threesome dating and make love with their partner for exchange. Because many people cannot accept or understand this behavior, so we would keep our swinger lifestyle as a secret. Just several close swinger friends know it. But I know that there are still many people envy such swing lifestyle. Therefore, I would share some thoughts and experiences here with them. I hope I can be helpful for them.

It may take years of negotiation and practice. Tinder threesome lifestyle was introduced to us by one of our married couple friends. We happened to know the fact that they were in an open relationship. Since we had known their relationship, there was nothing to hide from us anymore. They clearly showed attraction to us, especially to my wife. He flirted with her in a very hard and aggressive way. My wide is not into that. However, his wife did not show me much favor. I thought I was not attractive enough for her, but later I got to know that fact was that she gave in to maintain her marriage, which did last very long. They divorced after a few years. She finally couldn’t take it for any longer. She is not a swinger and not into open relationships. That means, an open relationship will only work when both parties are into it.

Back then, my wife and I were both not so sure if we were swinger material, but we did show great interest in having a threesome or double date on a threesome app. We decided to play it safe by starting with going to swinger apps and websites together. You can find local swinger parties or clubs. We would occasionally go to one and hung out with some other swinger singles or couples, but we wouldn’t get into bed with them. We were not ready for that. For us, we would rather keep it dull and monogamous than diving into the swinger pool without making sure our marriage is safe or not. Marriage still takes our number one spot, even now.

We met many swinger couples and singles. Some of them are very experienced. They would offer us advice and help us decide whether we should get started with it. They never rushed us and never had this idea of trying to get us on board with them as soon as possible. They were really nice and considerate. We had many concerns and doubts and they were more than happy to help us figure them out.

Before we got 100 percent sure that we will be okay and this is really what we want and need, we never did anything rational. We waited patiently until we finally putting our foot down. I still remember the first threesome we had. It was with a woman we found on a tinder for threesome dating app. It was perfect.